To all you moms (and dads) of 12 and 13 year old girls out there...... HELP!
My daughter has morphed, almost overnight, it would seem, from my sweet (yet independent and headstrong) little girl, into this Creature who now inhabits our home.
Said creature is moody, snappy, quick to roll eyes, slam doors, has ZERO interest in school, and even LESS interest in what her parents have to say.
Suggestions? Thoughts?
I've considered tying her to a booster rocket and shooting her into outer space, but realize this may be short-sighted on my part.
And, after all, I do really really love her.
I just want my happy girl back, instead of the Hormone-Controlled Creature who inhabits her room.....
Seriously. All responses are welcome....
1 month ago
8 comments:
Girl, I wish I had some words of advice, but I have NONE! My poor sister is now dealing with TWO teenaged girls. God bless her!!
That's not to say that boys don't go through a similar moodiness and hormonal upheaval, but it's NOTHING like what I've witnessed in my nieces. YIKES!
Just keep reminding yourself that this, too, shall pass...
And, I'm sure now you understand why some species eat their young....
It's hormones. Plain and simple. Just say 'this too shall pass'.. a lot! : ) I don't have great advice.. it's just a hard time. Sometimes I schedule times when I can sit down and talk to my girl.. nothing fancy. Our last big convo was in a parking lot with Chickfila in our laps. But I listened. And she appreciated it. : )
Be as paitent as you can, but remind her of your need for respect and keeping inside the family rules (boundaries that she knows are there)
It will pass, I promise.
But I do wonder if something else is going on...maybe some issues with school or friends at school that she is keeping inside?
I am sure you have asked her, but you may need to badger to get to the bottom of it.
If not, then get the rocket booster ready. :) Kidding.
Hugs
Suz
Time to rescue a dog! :-)
Just kidding.
Or not.
Tee hee.
Seriously though, I have a lot of experience because of one of my sisters and some of my cousins, not because of any babies of my own (I think)...all I can say is that I've seen the opposite occur when moms have "over mothered" in this situation. I think the most success has come when they have reminded their daughter of parameters and respect, but at the same time let them have their space to work things out.
Also, get the software for parents to monitor online/cell phone activity. I'm so serious. We have learned so much of what young people are able to access online, and how, because of Ed's job, that we almost wish we hadn't known it. It makes it frightening to think about having kids!
Good luck. If all else fails, I have a half built rocket in my garage that I gave up on a couple of years ago. I bought it at Hobby Lobby. I can rig it back up if you'd like...ha!
Hang in there dear friend...hugs from San Diego!
Sorry, girl, as far as I know, that happy girl won't be back for a while... Somehow it is part of growing up, and it is not nice to watch in any way.
My baby has turned 14 and even thought boys are supposed to be easier, it is no picnic in the park : )
I think this is their way of finding their own identity. Sucks really. Give me 10 years old anyday, haha.
My survival trick is looking at photos of them when they were young, little and cute. Reminds me why I loved them so
I have recently become a fan of midol for my 12 year old. She gets so irritable she can't even stand herself. It seems to really help. Since she is the third of our daughters in this stage I can only say.... I know nothing and have no advice other than to say that patience is a virtue. I have allowed the burrowing they have done with the thought that the butterfly will emerge eventually. Good luck!
ps my word verification is "laddying" and I think this is what she is doing. actually.
Thank you my darlings for you encouragement and wisdom. Your comments have been very wise (and very funny!) and C., I think "laddying" is now the new expression I will use for this phase! :)
I can't relate to that since I was a PERFECT teenager : ) and it was so recently too : ). Love, your 33 year old baby friend, Becky
PS My Mom would completely disagree with my take on my teenage years I fear : (
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